Friday, July 26, 2013

Public Stands Against Bobcat Trapping Near Joshua Tree by Alicia Graef July 25, 2013 11:30 am

Public Stands Against Bobcat Trapping Near Joshua Tree

Public Stands Against Bobcat Trapping Near Joshua Tree
Last winter the discovery that bobcats were being targeted by trappers around Joshua Tree National Park ignited a call to ban the practice in the state. Residents who live next to the park are banning together and pushing to protect these cats from the fur trade.
Unfortunately, trapping bobcats in California is perfectly legal from November through January, and while the bobcat population isn’t in danger (yet), the disappearances of some of them from the landscape have saddened and angered those living in the area. However, they have also brought them together in a fight for the passage of a bill that would protect bobcats from trappers.
“It literally became the world against Joshua Tree,” Tom O’Key, who found the first trap on his land earlier this year, told the Riverside Press-Enterprise. “I would say it has been one of the most significant things to come to the community at large, and one of the biggest binders of people of opposite interests.”
In February, park biologist Michael Vamstad told the LA Times that, “Residents have every right to be upset. The fact that there is no limit on bobcats that can be legally taken during hunting season doesn’t jibe along the edges of a national park. It’s a relic regulation.”
The Bobcat Protection Act, AB 1213, would require trappers to stop trapping around Joshua Tree immediately, create a buffer zone around the park and ban traps on private land without the owner’s permission.
While residents are hoping to save their four-legged neighbors, hunters are fighting for their right to continue to kill them and sell their pelts at fur auctions for top markets in China, Russia and Korea, among other places, which can bring in anywhere from $200 to $1,700. State officials believe the number of bobcats killed has risen from around 600 four years ago to nearly 1,500 last year. The rising value of pelts has bobcat advocates concerned that even more will be killed.
Trapping and killing bobcats for their fur isn’t just inhumane, removing a top predator also has the potential to cause a negative impact on the ecosystem. Taking one who is loved by the public could also have a negative effect on ecotourism. An estimated 1.4 million people visit Joshua Tree every year to enjoy the landscape and catch a glimpse of the wild animals who call it home, while only a small handful of individuals have trapping licenses.
Fortunately, the bill is making progress. It passed the Assembly and now goes on to the Senate appropriations committee, which is scheduled to hear it on August 12.
TAKE ACTION!
Please sign and share the petition urging California’s Senate protect Joshua Tree’s resident bobcats by passing AB 1213.

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What Not to Say When You're Disappointed With Your Child June 7, 2013 by Sharon Silver 32 0

What Not to Say When You're Disappointed With Your Child

What Not to Say When You're Disappointed With Your Child
"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." When I was little that rhyme was the big, bad, powerful statement we used to ward off the vicious attacks of other kids.
That rhyme gave us power but didn't protect us from the sting of the words. It didn't stop the ugly words from sinking in and taking root. It didn't stop those words from becoming the way we saw ourselves or from imagining it was the way others saw us, too.
What got me thinking about this was a parent-child interaction I witnessed this week in the grocery store, and this Circle of Moms conversation about basic needs for healthy relationships, in which a member named Nancy R. shared the thought that "The emotional hurt may be hidden from others, but it plays on your mind, heart, and soul."
If you remember the sting of mean words spoken to you as a child, why would you ever label your kids in ways that could be hurtful to them? I'm not talking about labels like "autistic" or "sensory seeking"; I'm talking about calling your child "sloppy," "liar," "stupid," "awful," etc.
Do parents who do this believe that labeling their child will change something about them or help correct a behavior? Can that ever work?
Here's the real-life incident that caused me to wonder about this question.
 An "Awful" Boy
I was in line at the grocery store when I heard a mom very calmly and very firmly whisper to her son, "Are you an awful boy?" The little one tried to pull his body away from his mom, as if to escape the sting of his beloved mother's words, but couldn't. He very sadly dropped his head and said, "Yes."
This little one's face told the whole story. It was obvious this was not the first time Mom had said those words to him. You could literally see the effects of his mom's words being accepted by his emotional self. You could see the words becoming part of how he will define himself, now, and in the future — I am an awful person.
We've all read that parents need to separate the behavior from the child, that parents should tell a child that his behavior is awful, not that he is awful. I don't agree. I don't believe that children can distinguish between the two, not really.
Think of it this way. A group of little girls are playing. Trish looks at Suzie and says, "Suzie, your hair looks funny!" The other girls laugh. Does Suzie understand that she's just having a bad hair day, or does she translate that comment into "I'm ugly"?
I suppose she could have if her parents had coached her on how to respond, maybe by giving her a one-liner comeback like, "You think my hair is funny today, you should have seen it yesterday!" from Sally Ogden's book, Words Will Never Hurt Me: Helping Kids Handle Teasing, Bulling and Putdowns. But most kids can't deflect labels so skillfully. Labels become deeply rooted in how they see themselves and affect all future decisions about what they are and are not capable of.
Most of us remember the sting and impact of a peer's mean label. Imagine how much bigger the sting is when a parent labels?
When the one person a child sees as always being right, her beloved parent, labels her, she just accepts it and defines herself by it. The wound is so deep that it requires a great deal of reprogramming, if you will, to change it.
Why do we need to use harsh words at all? There are far better words to use — words that can actually motivate a child to change.
 3 Questions That Improve Behavior
When your child behaves badly, try asking her if what she did was kind. Was it safe? Was it respectful? These three questions begin the process of change and teaching — without categorizing or labeling.
As an educator, a mom, a former child, and now an empowered adult, I implore you: stop labeling your child, even if the label accurately describes what he's done. Using words that motivate change will get you and your child where you want to go, faster.
Sharon Silver is the author of Stop Reacting and Start Responding and the Skills e-class. Visit proactiveparenting.net to download two free chapters from her book and learn about other Proactive Parenting programs.