Sunday, April 7, 2013

How Yelling Cancels Listening


We all know that modeling is a big part of parenting. As mom-of-two Vanessa D. asks, "I don't know how to tell my daughter that she cannot yell at me when I get mad at her for something she shouldn't do. I need help. Does anyone have any other way to teach her not to yell back?"
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Vanessa's situation is very common. Her child is acting exactly the way she perceives her mom to be acting toward her. Vanessa's daughter yells at her mom to try to get her mom to stop yelling at her. The reasoning behind this behavior is very childlike.
The following tips may help this Circle of Moms member unlock her yelling, which would allow her to say to her child, "I stopped yelling at you, and I would like you to stop yelling at me."
Yelling happens in most families at one time or another. Most parents rationalize it by saying, I'm simply expressing that, "I say what I mean, and mean what I say!"
There are two big problems with yelling. The first one is there's a really good chance your child doesn't hear a word you say when you're yelling. The second problem is that yelling can cause a great deal of emotional damage to a child's self-esteem if the parent is screaming, being mean, or attacking a child's character.
Most parents think the louder they get, the firmer they appear to their child. Actually, the opposite is true. The more yelling you do, the less your child hears you. Why?
Children tend to withdraw just a little bit in order to withstand the intensity of your yelling. Watch your child the next time you yell and you'll see her shift her attention from your words to retreating inside herself for a minute or so to protect herself from the onslaught. What she does after you stop yelling — like crying, yelling at you, or creating more misbehavior — is another topic all together.
Your child can't fully listen to your words and emotionally protect herself from your yelling at the same time. Something has to give. So she ignores what you're saying in favor of her emotional safety.
So the next time you say to your child, "Listen to me right now, I'm talking to you," notice whether or not you're yelling. You'll have a better chance of her really hearing you if you're calmer.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Are Doggy Seat Belts Really Safe for Your Pet?

Are Doggy Seat Belts Really Safe for Your Pet?
Would you transport your child in your car without a car seat or seat belt?  If you answered “no,” then why would you transport your pet in your automobile without proper safety restraints?
Any pet parent who drives their dog to their veterinarian for a health check up knows how distracting it is to be driving with Fido fumbling to get on your lap or licking your ear.  Distractions aside, what happens when — God forbid –  you get into a collision with another vehicle?  Fido just became a projectile potentially causing harm to him and the human occupants.
Lindsey A. Wolko, Founder, Center for Pet Safety, had a similar experience in 2004.  She was driving with her English cocker spaniel, Maggie — secured in her harness attached to a seatbelt in the back seat — when she suddenly needed to break and swerve in order to avoid a collision.  The accident was avoided but Maggie sustained injuries to her spine and hip.  The harness, in essence, hog-tied the dog from the force of suddenly applying the brakes.
Center for Pet Safety is Born
Wolko had long worked in the pet product industry and the experience with Maggie made her want to evaluate the efficacy of pet “safety”  products.  She researched the products and found there are no regulations mandating safety testing for pet restraints.
The experience with Maggie and her subsequent inquiries into pet safety restraints led Wolko to form the Center for Pet Safety, a non-profit 501(c) 3 advocacy organization aimed at scientifically studying companion animal safety products.
Testing Results Thus Far
In 2011, the Center for Pet Safety tested four harnesses via an independent testing laboratory.  The same motor vehicle safety standards were applied as are used in testing child safety car seats.  A 55 pound test dog — NO live animals are used in testing — was developed because the average size dog in the U.S. is 55 pounds and up.  The results were devastating.
Simulating a 30 mile per hour collision, all four harnesses failed!  The first one provided too much slack and the test dog was sent crashing into the back of the front seat.  The next two harnesses broke and turned the test dog into a projectile.  But the fourth was the most surprising.  The harness slid up to the test dog’s neck upon impact.  “I don’t think that there’s any doubt that those dogs would have been severely injured, if not fatally injured” said Wolko in a Today Show video.
Laws Addressing Pet Safety in Automobiles
There was a large hullaballoo last year in New Jersey over the proposed Dog Seat Belt Law calling for fines of $250 up to $1,000 and a charge of animal cruelty.  Legislators proposed it because they felt it makes the canine safer while driving in a car.  Governor Chris Christie said “It’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard of in my life” and vowed to veto the bill if it makes it to his desk for signature.
Other states have laws addressing pet safety in vehicles.  In Hawaii, a driver is forbidden to hold a pet on their lap while driving.  The distracted driving law can be used for people driving with animals on their laps in Arizona, Maine and Connecticut.
California, Massachusetts, Washington, Oregon and Rhode Island require dogs to be caged or tethered in a vehicle.  New Hampshire requires it for dogs but ironically people are not required by law to use seat belts.
The thing to understand here is currently pet safety restraints are not required by law to be scientifically tested.  Doggy seat belts do prevent driver distraction, so manufacturers who make and sell them are not actually lying about their product.  It is safer not to experience distraction while driving.  But, it gives pet parents a false sense of security about their dog if a collision does occur.
What to Do?
In a phone interview with Wolko, she advises anyone with a pet who drives him or her in their car to carefully research the pet safety restraint before purchasing it.  Yes, a few manufacturers spend the time and money on scientific research but the vast majority do not. When asked about laws mandating doggy seat belts, “I question the appropriateness to mandate the use of a product that has no proven track record,” she said.
Wolko said the Center for Pet Safety will continue to do independently funded crash testing of companion animal safety devises.  The information learned will be shared with manufacturers and legislators in an attempt to improve pet safety products to consumers.  “We want to help manufacturers make better products,” said Wolko.
She also told me that the manufacturers she has been in contact with are open to discussing and learning about test results so they can design a better engineered product for the market.  No doubt this testing carried out by the Center for Pet Safety will take a long time to make an impact on future pet safety restraint products and laws.  Nothing changes quickly in the legislative realm.
So what should responsible pet parents do until all this testing is completed and actually results in changes to manufacturing of pet safety devices?  That’s a question that can only be answered by each individual using some good, old-fashioned common sense.

Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/are-doggy-seat-belts-really-safe-for-your-pet.html#ixzz2OsO6Rksy

Thursday, March 14, 2013

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Friday, February 1, 2013

Bronx Dog Fighting Victim Recovers, Finds New Home

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Bronx Dog Fighting Victim Recovers, Finds New Home
On the heels of last week’s guilty plea by Raul Sanchez for his involvement in a Bronx-based dog fighting operation, we are thrilled to report that many of the dogs are thriving in their new lives as beloved pets.
In November, we told you a very happy story about Ninja, one of the dogs we rescued and rehabilitated, who found a wonderful forever home. Now we have another heartwarming success story to share: Mona Lisa, who was one of 50 dogs we rescued in June from that dark, dingy Bronx basement, recently went home to a loving family.
Mona now lives with two loving pet parents in a spacious house overlooking 50 mountainside acres, where she takes frequent hikes with her new dog sister, Zelda. Her other favorite activities include snuggling with Zelda by the fireplace and lounging on the couch with her new pet parents.
Mona Lisa’s journey to adoption wasn’t easy. After her rescue, she was transferred to one of our partner shelters, The Animal Support Project, Inc. (TASP) in Cropseyville, New York.
“When Mona arrived at the shelter, she cried and whined like a hyena and was extremely anxious, usually sitting pitifully at the kennel door,” says Melinda Plasse of TASP. But after plenty of attention, care and time to recover, Mona made great progress. “She is outgoing,” Melinda reports, “loves belly rubs, and is kind as can be to children and other animals.”
When we picture Mona Lisa romping around in the woods with her new family, we can’t help but smile. We’re working to make sure that animals nationwide won’t continue to suffer due to the cruel practice of animal fighting. Last week, legislators reintroduced the Animal Fighting Spectator Prohibition Act, which would make attending an organized animal fight a federal offense and would impose additional penalties for bringing a minor to an animal fight.
Please join us in our efforts by asking your own House representative to support this important humane legislation.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

18 January 2013, 3:05 PM
Industry not ready for offshore drilling in treacherous waters
Shell drill rig grounded near Kokiak Island. (U.S. Coast Guard photo by Petty Officer 2nd Class Zachary Painter)
As Royal Dutch Shell continues to make perfectly clear, industry is not prepared to safely explore for oil in the pristine waters of America’s Arctic. Shell’s Arctic operations have been called the “gold standard” of the oil industry and if this is the best they’ve got, the industry is not Arctic ready.
Beyond the arguments of the Arctic being a harsh, dangerous, infrastructure-less environment, the question remains, does it make economic sense to drill for oil in this remote region now for barrels of oil in 10 years? In 12 years, cars will be averaging 54.5 mpg. Energy efficiency and a growing renewable fuel market are also making headway. U.S. oil production hit its highest level in 20 years in 2012 and it is projected to increase an additional 14 percent this year—without the extreme oil of the Arctic. In 10 years, will Americans need the extreme oil of the Arctic that Shell is so desperately seeking?
What happens in the Arctic doesn’t stay in the Arctic. In addition to the potentially catastrophic local impacts, climate pollution from drilling in the region, especially black carbon emissions from the drill fleet accelerates Arctic warming and melting. Black carbon, which was reported this week to be the second-largest human contributor to climate change after CO2. It is even worse when this pollution is emitted in the Arctic where it has direct effects on ice.
Interior Secretary Ken Salazar should take notice on his way out the door to Colorado that our country is done with lining the pockets of the oil industry and we do care about climate change and special places like the Arctic. Tens of thousands of our supporters have already written to the Secretary and President Obama this week. Our goal is 60,000.
Caution and concern goes beyond the environmental community. As the drill ships were being prepared to head north for the summer, Lloyd’s of London warned that offshore drilling in the Arctic would “constitute a unique and hard-to-manage risk.” The insurance giant also urged companies to “think carefully about the consequences of action” before exploring for oil in the region. Watching Shell's problems, Norwegian Statoil continues to defer its plans to drill in the Arctic Ocean, and French oil company Total SA ended the year by publicly calling Arctic drilling too risky for any company."
The Sustainable Energy and Environment Coalition, a group of 45 Democratic congressional representatives, called for a formal investigation of the Kulluk incident in order to determine whether Shell should be allowed to continue drilling for oil in Alaskan waters. And my personal favorite quote; Rep. Ed Markey (D-Mass.), the top Democrat on the House Natural Resources Committee, said recently:
Oil companies keep saying they can conquer the Arctic, but the Arctic keeps disagreeing with the oil companies.
This week, former EPA administrator and the director of the White House Office of Energy and Climate Change policy under President Barack Obama Carol Browner and former Chief of Staff for President Clinton, John Podesta delivered a strong warning to stay out of the Arctic.
Secretary Salazar has called for a 60-day investigation into Shell’s 2012 Arctic operations and media reports say there is an ongoing criminal investigation into pollution related to their drilling vessels. The top dogs from U.S. environmental groups sent Salazar a letter last week requesting a time out. We can go on about rigs hitting shores and the numerous “free passes” the Administration has granted Shell. Now is the time for the President and his team to recognize that drilling in the Arctic now just does not make sense and poses too great a risk.
Meanwhile, our attorneys here at Earthjustice will continue to represent its clients in challenging flawed and unlawful oil and gas permits that put the Arctic Ocean, its wildlife and its people at risk. Our aim is to promote a clean energy future and protect the pristine American Arctic waters from harmful industrial activities in the short term with a long-term focus of conservation based on the best available science.

Speak Up to Save Puget Sound's Orcas

Speak Up to Save Puget Sound's Orcas
  • signatures: 28,235

  • deadline: January 28, 2013
  • signature goal: 30,000
The rare and playful orcas of the Pacific Northwest urgently need your help. A property-rights group is trying to strip away Endangered Species Act protections for the last remaining killer whales in Puget Sound. We can't let that happen.

There are only about 86 orcas left in this population -- and they continue to face the very real threat of extinction because of pollution, climate change and food shortages. This unique population feeds on fish -- unlike other orcas -- and their salmon food source has been severely depleted.

Despite these threats, the federal government is considering a proposal by the property-rights group Pacific Legal Foundation to remove orcas from the endangered species list.

Please sign the petition today to take action and protect Puget Sound's orcas.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Alice in Chains Announce Spring 2013 Tour Dates

Alice in Chains posted a handful of 2013 US tour dates on their Facebook page this morning.
You can check out the complete date and venue info below.
Fan pre-sale for most tour dates begins tomorrow, January 15. Tickets for all headline tour dates go on sale to the general public on January 18.
Just last week, the grunge icons posted the official music video for their new song, "Hollow," which you can see below.
The song debuted online last month along with a lyric video made up of images contributed by fans. The track is the first from the band's upcoming, as-yet-untitled new album, which is expected this spring.
"It’s like having to deal with the sophomore jinx for the second time in our career,” said guitarist Jerry Cantrell of the pressure to follow 2009's Black Gives Way to Blue. "In my opinion, that record stood up to anything else we’ve put out in our career. And this new one is right up there as well."
For a look back at the band's 2009 comeback album, Black Gives Way to Blue, check out our 2009 interview with Jerry Cantrell here.
Alice in Chains 2013 US Spring Tour
Thu-Apr-25 Miami Beach, Fillmore
Tue-Apr-30 Birmingham, BUCC Concert Hall
Wed-May-01 Augusta, GA, William B. Bell Auditorium
Sun-May-05 Norfolk, VA, Norva
Tue-May-07 Bethlehem, PA, Sands Events Center
Wed-May-08 Pittsburgh, Benedum Center
Tue-May-14 Sioux Falls, SD Lyons Fairgrounds
Wed-May-15 Milwaukee, Eagles Ballroom
Sat-May-18 Philadelphia, Susquehanna Bank Ctr
Tue-May-21 Ft. Wayne, IN, Embassy Theatre
Wed-May-22 Evansville, IN, Aiken Theatre
Fri-May-24 Lincoln, NE, Pinewood Bowl Amphitheater